Friendships
Who are the most important people in my life?
How can I better communicate to these people how
important they are to me?
How can I be more patient with them?
How can I be more supportive of these people?
Who would I like to be friends with?
What is it about this person that makes me desire
to be friends with him / her?
How can I develop more of this quality in myself?
Is it worth it for me to spend more time with my
family? If so, how can I spend more time
with my family?
How can I have more fun when I spend time with my
friends and family?
Contribution / Respect of others, respect by
others
It has been said that if you want something you should
give it. If you want respect you should
give it. If you want love you should give
it. How do I feel about these
words? How can I give more of the
emotions that I want to receive?
How can I improve my contribution to the world?
How can I contribute more to the world today?
How can I improve the quality of my contribution?
Who do I respect in the world? What do I respect
about this person / people?
From Dale Carnegie
How can I do less criticizing,
condemning / complaining?
How can I give more honest and sincere
appreciation?
How can I do a better job of arousing
eager wants in other people?
How can I be more genuinely interested
in others?
How can I smile more?
How can I do a better job remembering people’s names?
How can I be a better listener? How can I encourage others to talk more about
themselves?
How can I do a better job of talking
in terms of other people’s interests?
How can I make other feel more
important and do it more sincerely?
When was the last time I ever saw
anyone win an argument? Did the other
side ever really acknowledge the defeat?
How can I do a better job of avoiding arguments?
How can I show more respect for other
people’s opinions?
How can I stop saying, “Your are
wrong” in words, looks, expressions, tones, and every other way that things can
be communicated?
Do I admit when I am wrong? How could I do it faster and more
emphatically?
How can I be friendlier to people
than I was yesterday?
How can I do a better job of getting
other people saying yes, yes?
How can I let other people talk more?
How can I let other people take more
credit for ideas?
How can I do a better job of honestly
seeing things from the other person’s point of view?
How can I be more sympathetic with
other people’s ideas and desires?
How can I do a better job of
dramatizing my ideas?
How can I do a better job of
challenging people?
How can I do a better job of calling
attention to other people’s mistakes indirectly rather than causing them to
“lose face”?
How can I show more praise and
appreciation?
Do I remember to talk about my own
mistakes before criticizing other people?
How can I get better at it?
How can I do a better job of asking
questions instead of giving direct orders?
How can I do a better job of letting
others “save face”?
How can I do a better job of praising
the slightest improvement, praising every improvement, and being “hearty in my
approbation and lavish in my praise”?
How can I do a better job of giving
the other person a fine reputation to live up to?
How can I do a better job of using
encouragement and making faults seem easy to correct?
How can I make other people happier about doing the things I (would) suggest (if I really was the smartest person in the world)?
While this might at first glance seem like a manipulative trick to take advantage of others, it’s really the essence of How to Win Friends and Influence People; adopt a new outlook on life whereby you admit when you are wrong, appreciate the positive things that others do, and then work together to find the optimal solution to a problem; and let the other person take credit for it.
In other words, “it is amazing what we can accomplish when we don’t worry about who gets the credit.”